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Smoking, death, decisions, goals, consistency and success – in that order

When I tell ‘my story’ in writing or at my seminars, I often say that “I was trying to lose weight and be healthy, but getting it all wrong for 16 years” and then, from my mid-30s, I started getting things right. The day I started getting things right, was 13 years ago today.

13 years ago today, on the 4th Feb 2006, I was 35 years old, over weight, out of shape and in poor health. I weighed 220 pounds, that’s 99.8 kilos (or 15 stone 10 in old English money) and I had a BMI of 29, and my bodyfat was 25%. This wasn’t my heaviest, I had been 15 to 30 pounds heavier at various times in my teens, my 20s and just three years earlier in 2003, in my 30s.

By this point, 2006, I had been yo-yo dieting for 19 years. I had smoked for 18 out of the previous 20 years, I had quit hundreds of times – some lasted a day, some a week, some a month, once I even managed a whole year off, but then it somehow crept back in. I could never quit based on rationalising to myself.

  • If I told myself “it’s a waste of money” that didn’t so it. I had a good job, I was earning plenty, and I mostly smoked roll-ups in those days (roll-your-own) so my dozen smokes per day probably only cost me about 10 quid per week, it was pocket change to me then
  • If I told myself “it’ll kill you one day” that didn’t do it either. I was only in my 30s, I couldn’t really imagine being like my granddad, who has smoked all his life and passed in his 70s from emphysema
  • If I told myself “it’s not good for you” that wasn’t hitting any emotional triggers for me. I had used jogging as a weight control on and off for years, so when I really put in the effort, I could haul arse for a few miles round the block (my excess weight battering my right knee, that later ended up in surgery) so I told myself it was OK, I was fit enough
  • No matter how hard to tried to quit smoking, it always crept back in, every time, after hundreds and hundreds of attempts to quit

So, at this point, early 2006, I was smoking again, drinking far too much, unhealthily overweight, not exercising regularly, unfit, out of shape and my body was covered in itchy red hives, an unsightly rash caused by a condition called urticaria.

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I had a good job, I loved my kids, my life was ‘on the up’ in terms of growing my career, my family, my wealth…but they say the real wealth is health, and I knew all was not well. Read more

The true POWER in making a proper DECISION

9 years ago this day, mid-morning, I smoked my last cigarette.

This was when everything changed for me.

9 years ago this very hour, I made a DECISION, to be healthy.

Where we are now, all of us here, today, is the end result SO FAR of me making that one decision. MND, this whole blog, the public seminars I deliver, the videos, the MND Members Community, it’s all come from that one firm DECISION.

The root of the word decision comes from the same root as incision – to cut.

Decision, to CUT OFF any other POSSIBILITY.

I decided, 9 years ago, to change my internal belief about who I am. I decided that I am a healthy person. I didn’t say “I want to be” I said “I am healthy” – I walked out of the room, pulled my cigarettes from my pocket, screwed them up and threw them in the bin.

I cut off any other possibility. I didn’t leave the option open “But what if I change my mind, what if I fail, then I’ll have to buy another pack?” or “But this is 6 quid’s worth of fags here, it’s a waste, I’ll finish this pack then stop.” NO. I decided I am a healthy person, and I quit, on the spot, and have never wanted one since.

Previously, I had tried quitting 100 times, but always failed, lasting between and hour and a year, but always went back.

But that day I DECIDED. And it was done. I changed my identity. I became a healthy person, and through that paradigm, I now see the world, MY world. Healthy people don’t smoke, so I don’t smoke.

From that day, everything changed.
I was not the person I am now. I was fat, lacked confidence, I was shy, uncomfortable around women, I was quieter, afraid of public speaking, never revealed any of my own flesh, I was unfit, unhealthy, covered in rash, I was tired, not bouncy.

That one decision changed everything about my life.
It changed who I am.

What is your identity?

Who are you?

How do you want the world to see you?

What DECISION have you been putting off?

MAKE that decision, commit to yourself, BE the person you want to be in your heart. NOW.

Do it now. Do it today. Don’t procrastinate any longer. Become the best version of yourself that you can be.

We’re here to help, we’ve got your back, MND is looking after you.

Decide. Do it NOW.